Okay….what I mean by my title is that a few weeks ago I went on 3 different dates with 3 different guys in ONE week. I honestly felt like I was on an episode of The Bachelorette. I mean, who does that??
This girl.
It was obviously a fluke. A fluke that will probably never happen again in my lifetime.
Basically I have been chatting with this one boy I met online for a few weeks. And we finally made plans to grab dinner and drinks on a Tuesday night. I met him half way in Manhattan Beach (since he lives all the way in Redondo Beach) and when I walked in the restaurant and saw him, I was quite relieved that he was much cuter in person than in his pictures. Right away after we sat down, this guy just kept talking and talking. He was telling me every detail of his last weekend-talking to me about his friends like I knew them. It was a little odd but I just figured it was because he was nervous. On a scale of 1-10, the date was a 7…maybe 6.5 Bonus points is that he was cute, he paid, and he kept the conversation flowing. Minus points was that I felt there wasnt a ton of chemistry between us. Yes we got along fine, but the energy level just seemed quite low. Luckily at the end of the date there was promise of a second date and we hugged goodbye. I didnt know what to think. I couldnt decide if I was into him because the date was a success or just because he was a firefighter and really cute.
Second date: This one was with a very nice Jewish boy I had just met online and we made plans for dinner and drinks the very next night. When I walked up to him outside of the restaurant I was again quite pleased because he was cuter than his pictures! This seems to be a trend. I bet girls are uglier than their pictures and guys are cuter. haha This guy was immediately confident and talkative and at first I was excited because personality wise he seemed more my type than Tuesday night guy. As we sat down for dinner and got deeper and deeper into getting to know one another, I slowly started noticing some red flags. And by red flags I mean gay red flags. This guy was gay. 99.9% sure of it. He was just clearly in denial or hadn’t admitted it to himself yet. We had great conversation, I felt like I was talking with a best friend as we bonded over the Kardashians and Real Housewives but something about his vibe just didn’t scream “Let’s go out again!” On a dating scale of 1-10 this date was a 5.5 Bonus was that he paid and I got some dating practice in. Minus points was that there were some gay vibes. Minor detail!
It was one of those dates where you hug goodbye and say things like “See ya around!” and “Catch ya later!” because you both know they’ll never be a second date.
Third date: This was literally my third date of the week AND my third date with this guy. I hadn’t seen or heard from him in 2 months but he reached out to me and asked me to go to dinner and a movie and I agreed. I just liked him too much before to say no. (Even though I was secretly annoyed that it took 2 months for him to contact me after our first two dates) This date went perfectly. On a scale of 1-10 it was a 8.5
We laughed, we talked, it was fun! When you go on dates all you can hope for is to have a good time. And with this guy, it always is. Unfortunately this guy is too much of a gentleman for his own good so I don’t know what to think. Does he like me? Are we just friends? Is he shy? Not sure…
But I’m just going to take it for what it is…. a nice time. If it goes anywhere, great. But I wont let myself over think it.
I don’t know how those Bachelor and Bachelorette contestants on the tv show do this. Dating is exhausting!
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