So apparently LA women are really hard to sleep with. hahah This is hilarious!!!

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Sometimes I worry about myself. I don’t think it can be emotionally good for a person to be single for as long as I have. There’s gotta be some long term damage that’s happening to me subconsciously that I don’t totally realize yet. 

How can I be surrounded by so many people that love me, yet not one guy on earth finds me loveable? I’m not saying this to be depressing or feel sorry for myself… honestly…I’m just saying this because I worry for myself. I worry that I will never find what I’m looking for and I’m going to somehow be emotionally f*cked up. Can a person be this alone and independent for this long and still come out okay? 

I’m losing myself. It’s a daily battle of caring too much then forcing myself to be grateful and happy and not care at all. 

Another daily work convo with my single bestie.

Me: What if we just went on a date with every single guy that hit us up on okcupid?
Bestie: We’d be on a hundred dates by now. And probably dead from a creeper.”

Another daily work convo with my single bestie.

Me: It’s okay. We’ll probably have children at the same time and they can go to school together. They’ll go to Santa Monica elementary school. We can drop them off in our Range Rovers before we go to mommy breakfast and mani pedis.
Bestie: and then some afternoon shopping in Beverly Hills
Me: right.
Bestie: Then the nanny will pick them up and take them to a play date.
Me: And we’ll hit up a yoga class.
Bestie: And we’ll make good family dinners by the time everyone is home.
Me: Exactly. For our rich hot husbands, when they get home at like 6.
Bestie: Yup, they’ll come home with flowers and spend time with the kids while we’re finishing up dinner. Then they’ll do the dishes…we’ll put the kids to bed and then it’s cuddle time with wine on the couch.
Me: And that’s our lives.
Bestie: We should also look into volunteering once a week and maybe be a part of a Junior League or something.
Me: Oh of course!

So it’s been a month now that the boy I was dating left me and moved across the country. And it would be easy for the single girl in me to be like “oh it was so tragic! Worst month of my life! I was SO depressed!”

But guess whaaaaaat. That isn’t the case at all! I never really thought it would be but you know, when you’re single, and you have any moment of something real, feelings can be more escalated than necessary. But luckily I got through the first month and only had 2 mini breakdowns over it. 

Him and I still talk almost every day…but I don’t feel butterflies fly through my stomach when I hear from him or anything. And that of course that is because he is ALL the way in NY and I will never see him again. Well maybe..but not in the way that will ever affect my future. There are moments where I’ll be driving and out of nowhere I’ll catch myself thinking of him, and this pit forms in my stomach because I do miss him. But I have to remind myself to just smile at those memories and move on.  

I had THE best first date today. Like one of those first dates that make you smile when you think about it later. 🙂

That awkward moment….

your chatting with your bestie about the guy she’s been on two super awesome dates with. And a light bulb goes off in your head and you think “Wait! I also met a guy online named James that I went on a date with a few months back.”

And you compare phone numbers and yup…turns out she’s going on dates with the SAME guy you went on a date with!! I mean…it’s not like Los Angeles is that small. How can that even happen? Funniest situation ever! Luckily it wasnt at the same time or anything and we’re both totally fine with it. 

Just a thought …

I’m currently browsing books at Barnes N Noble and stumbled across the “Love and Sex” section. One of the books there is titled “Her Guide to Going Down On Him”

If a single gal just stood in that section, reading that book, do you think she’d score a date? 😉

It Hit Me He’s Gone…

My first weekend not having him around me and I’m not going to lie… it was difficult. I didnt even realize it at first. Going about my Saturday with my friends, having a good time. But something just felt off. I couldnt figure it out, wasnt sure why I didn’t feel like myself.

And then around 9pm I realized… I was missing him. As tears streamed down my face I realized I was sad and I was back to being alone and single. To be close with someone for months, then in one second for them to be gone, out of your life and across the country is difficult. No one should have to go through that. It wasn’t fair for him to be that close to me and then just leave the way he did. I knew it was coming… but the emptiness I wasn’t expecting. 

I’ll be fine… I’m not worried. My mom told me to focus on the bad parts about him and stop only thinking of the good and she is absolutely right. So I’m going to try my best to do that… and move on. 

How I Feel…

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