03 Jun 2014 Leave a comment

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So the boy wants to “take things slow”

This is after 2 weeks of hanging out almost every day. Him bringing me flowers on our first date and saying things to me like “So I read this article in a magazine that said couples should tell each other every day two accomplishments they had in a day and one realization.” As I sat there thinking “Ummm, we are doing things that a magazine suggested couples do?? Okayyyyy…”

But no…NOW he wants to take things slow. I’ve gotten advice and opinions from like a million different people. And at this point it could go so many ways. He’s either completely over me and just letting me down gently by not texting me ever and not making plans to hang out ever and telling me he wants to take things slow. Or he’s a typical guy who got freaked out when things got serious too fast so now he’s backing off and figuring out his feelings. Or he’s dating some other girl at the same time and thinks he cant commit to me because he’s also dating her so he needs time to date both of us. Grrrrr….
Meanwhile I’m left sitting here feeling SO confused because his actions did a complete 180 from how it all started.

I may never know what the real reason is. But I’m just giving him space and will continue distracting myself and doing my own thing… and just see what happens. If it’s over… fine. I’ll move on AGAIN. But if he just needs time then I can do that too.

One Month Later

29 May 2014 Leave a comment

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I’m writing this blog now but scheduling it to post a month from the day it happened. The story is too good and too important…I have to write about it…but I also don’t want to put it out there for every one to see because… it might jinx it… and who knows what could happen in a month. But here goes…

April 29, 2014 I was at the gym at my apartment complex and secretly noticed as I was walking in that the hot guy was also working out. This is a hot guy I had been eyeing for MONTHS at the gym. And although I tried to smile at him any time I could or say hello… he was still very cold and just did not seem into me at all. I assumed he had a girlfriend or just wasn’t interested.

Well on this day I walked in and right away hot guy at the gym goes “I saw you driving the other day! I was right next to you in traffic!” The first sentence that started it all. We continued talking for about 10 minutes. Just about where we work, where we’re from, and rent prices in our area. He had just moved to my apartment complex 6 months ago…

Finally he was like “okay well, enjoy your workout.” and onto the treadmill I went. 30 minutes into my workout he starts to leave and he comes up to me and says, (I kid you not) “Sorry to interrupt your workout, but I’m wondering if I just met a beautiful attractive intelligent girl who is also single??”

My insides burst. LOL I couldn’t believe the HOT GUY FROM THE GYM was saying this to me. I smiled and laughed and told him I was single and he asked to exchange numbers. As he was leaving he told me to text him so once he was gone I wrote him “Hi it’s Tess. We met by the treadmill.” to which he replied “Do you know how many months I’ve wanted to talk to you??”

I mean……

Pause for reaction….

This is a guy I had told all my friends about jokingly. Every time I went to the gym and he was there I would immediately text my besties and be like “Hot guy was at the gym again. We didn’t talk.” So let’s just say it was pretty mind boggling that this whole time he was also into me…

And the rest is history….for now…

We’ve been  hanging out non stop for the past week… I’m completely smitten and I’m just excited yet really nervous to see if this goes anywhere…

 **updated: For my followers… a month later yes we are still hanging out as of now 🙂

Annoying Guys From Online Dating:

08 Jan 2014 Leave a comment

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Guy #1: Randomly out of the blue he texted me around 7pm Saturday night and said “I got a dvd screener of ‘American Hustle’ I am going to watch on my movie screen. 🙂 What are you doing tonight?”
Me: “That sounds so fun. But I can’t tonight. :-/” 
Guy #1: “No, that’s not what I meant. I was just telling you what I’m doing and asking you what you were up to.”

Oh really?? Really? You just like to randomly text me in the middle of the day and tell me what your plans are when I didnt even ask?! And I’m not supposed to assume that that’s an invite?
Aint nobody got time for that, weirdo.

Guy#2: “So when are you available so we can go on a date?”
Me: “Next week sometime. Weds maybe?”
Guy #2: “Maybe? I don’t do maybes.  If the best you got is maybe, I’ll pass.”
Me: “Okay dramatic. I didnt mean it like that. I meant it as a question. Like Wednesday works for me, would it work for you too?”
Guy #2: “Okay Wednesday works! See you then! 🙂 “

Ummmmmm no…you will not be seeing me then.

03 Jan 2014 Leave a comment

The other day I realized I was single.

It will always hit you when you least expect it, at the most inconvenient time. And it never waits around. You have to fight for it.

It’s Okay To Be Single: Why You Need To Love Yourself Before You Try To Love Anyone Else | Elite Daily

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05 Nov 2013 Leave a comment

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Really interesting article and research about “the science of flirting.”

“He asked two complete strangers to reveal to each other intimate details about their lives. This carried on for an hour and a half. The two strangers were then made to stare into each others eyes without talking for four minutes. Afterwards many of his couples confessed to feeling deeply attracted to their opposite number and two of his subjects even married afterwards.”

Say whaaaaa? That’s amazing! I wish someone would just throw me in a room and make a guy stare at me for four minutes, and he would fall in love and we would get married. Done and done! haha

After reading this article I’ve decided when I go on dates I need to remind myself to speak more slowly, make eye contact and just be more sensual I guess. I tend to speak fast and be really happy and excited when I’m on a first date because I want to come off as charming and fun but I’m wondering if guys don’t like that as much?

My Truest Post

23 Oct 2013 Leave a comment

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I’ve been a little down lately. And it’s for the obvious reason. Putting myself out there, dating and dating and still not being good enough for any guy to love . I ask myself every day what is wrong with me. For whatever reason I feel like guys just don’t take the time to get to know me. To know me is to love me haha I know that because I have a lot of friends who love me. So I know I’m capable of being loved. I ask myself if it’s because of the obvious reasons: I’m too fat, I’m not pretty enough, I party too much, I don’t love myself therefore no one can love me. Trust me…I’ve thought about all these things plus more.
I may never know why I’ve gone this long without a real boyfriend. I just hold onto the hope that I will one day find love and when I do all this depression and self doubt will have been worth it.
I’m literally exhausted from all of it. I wish I could walk around numb to it all, without a single person asking me about my dating life. Where I wouldn’t feel lame and weird that I’m single. I just want to be myself and hope that a guy will see me and just like me for me, and I won’t have to try so hard. I’m so tired of trying.
It’s a vicious cycle. Wanting to love yourself so someone will love you. But not being able to love yourself because no one will love you.
I’m exhausted. I don’t want to talk about it and this post isn’t for attention. It’s truly because the only thing that helps me feel better is to write about my feelings and not hide it from myself or the world. You can only shove those feelings aside and be strong for so long.
So where do I go from here? I guess I can tell myself to just focus on me. Do the things that make me happy. Become a better person. Surround myself with people that make me happy. And just pray every day that I will find love.

14 Oct 2013 Leave a comment

I’m a sucker for over the top romantic marriage proposals. When I heard about this 27 minute long proposal I was hoping for something epic and worth the 27 minutes.

I’m just not sure how I feel about it. It has sweet and touching moments but for some reason the whole time I felt like he was just doing all of this because he’s more in love with himself than anything. Even at the end he goes “None of this was for you. You don’t care about that stuff. That was for me.”

Seriously?!?! Then why on earth did you propose like that?? Odd odd odd. When you have some time, watch for yourself and see what you think.

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Links I’m Reading

11 Oct 2013 Leave a comment

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The Girls You Should Be Marrying

I was worried when I saw the title of this link. “Oh gosh…am I about to read this online article and realize that I’m not part of the ‘girls you should be marrying’ club??”
Lucky for me, I believe I do fall into these categories. Phew!! I just may get married one day! Yippeeee!
And I’m also happy to report I don’t fall into any of the categories of The Girls Who Are Never Getting Married

Links I’m Reading

27 Sep 2013 Leave a comment

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The 12 Types of Crushes Every Girl Will Have

Why Dating is SO Difficult

27 Sep 2013 Leave a comment

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I literally just spent 5 mninutes trying to decide what to text the guy I just went on a date with. He wrote me: “I had a good time tonight.” and I seriously could not decide if I should say “Me too.” “Me too! :)” “Me too!” or “So did I.” I don’t want to sound too into him and too eager so maybe I shouldnt use an explanation mark. I already sent him a smiley face in a previous text so if I send another one, would it seem like I’m the overly happy girl sending smiley faces at everything?? Or should I say more than just “Me too.” Like maybe a “So did I. Thanks again for the drinks. Can’t wait to see you again.” ?!?!

Every text or decision you make when dating a guy has to be perfectly calculated. One slip up and he will be freaked out or lose interest at a drop of the hat. You don’t want the guy to think you are too into him because everyone likes the chase. And if he knows you’re into him, it’ll cause him to lose interest and therefore…he won’t be into you as much as you are into him. It. Is. Exhausting.

I decided to go with “Me too!”

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