12 Relationship Tips

I absolutely loved this post from one of my favorite bloggers. Definitely worth a read.

Snippet:  What to look for in a partner: I once interviewed a psychologist for a column, and I asked him readers’ questions about what to look for in a mate. Without fail, his answer to almost every question was “choose someone kind, choose someone kind.” It was like a broken record, and I was annoyed. But you know what? Being with somebody who is fundamentally kind — to children and waiters and dogs — means that at the end of the day, they will be kind to you.

I completely agree with this. Kindness is so SO important. If you are with someone who has a good heart, everything else can be worked out. That’s why I feel very lucky with Will. He’s respectful to everyone he encounters, he cares about the people in my life just as much as he cares about me. And he loves me so much and is always kind. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, but at the end of the day even through the struggles we face I know I’m with a good person who loves me as much as I love him.

Monday Flowers <3


Monday morning I was greeted with these beautiful flowers at the office! The nice man from our reception desk brought them to me and I can’t even tell you what a happy and exciting feeling it is to receive flowers when you least expect it!

Giddy with excitement I opened the card and the message read, “Hope you have an amazing week. I love you. – Will “

Flowers from the boyfriend just to make the Monday a little brighter and start the week off on a happy note.

It only takes one moment…

Finally… I am finding the time to sit down and write down what has been going on in my life in just the last month or so.
It’s truly bizzarre how so much has changed SO quickly. And what’s even more crazy is how everything just sort of happened at once.
I’ve been blogging for about 4 years now… and I’ve written story after story of all the struggles I’ve faced trying to find my match. A person who I could click with, feel a mutual connection with and a person I could just find my special place in the world with.
And… it finally happened.

Good news, I have met and I am currently in a relationship with an amazing man!!

His name is Will… and surprising enough… I’ve known of him for years.
About 6 weeks ago I took a weekend vacation to Las Vegas with some of my closest girlfriends. The very first night we went out, one of my guy friends who I’ve known since high school heard I was in Vegas and sent me a text wanting to meet up. So he came out with his roommate, who just happened to be Will. And it’s so funny how it happened but for some reason the moment I saw Will, I was immediately drawn to him. I was giddy he was there and from that point on in the night, I just wanted to be around him.
He hung out with all of us for the rest of the night and knowing my skills, he probably had no idea I was even interested. But something lined up for us…because he ended up reaching out to me the next day and spent the rest of the weekend hanging out. By Sunday, I had realized more and more, in just that short of time, that he was an even better guy than I had guessed. Luckily, even after I had left Las Vegas he continued to text me. And we began talking all day every day for the next 2 weeks.

I took a spur of the moment trip to Vegas to see him and the weekend went perfectly and I realized “I really like this guy!” 5 weeks after we “met” and I was visiting him for the 2nd time in Vegas, he asked me to be his girlfriend. It was fast but it just felt right!

I walked around for years and YEARS never knowing if I’d ever find a partner. And though I never gave up hope, I did get very depressed about it.
And now just like THAT, I have this amazing guy in my life. He has the kindest heart, he’s funny, he’s outgoing and he likes me just for me. Which probably sounds SO cliche…but I can’t even describe to you how hard of a concept it is for me to grasp that this guy really just likes me.

He makes me happy and smile every single day, multiple times a day.
He’s flying in tomorrow evening to stay with me for 4 days. And I cannot wati!! He’s going to meet all my friends in LA and I’m just excited to spend more time with him.

I also start a new job Monday!! Which I will discuss in a different post.

Honeymoon Blind Dating

There comes a time in everyone’s lives when they need to give their bffs some helpful dating advice. I probably shouldn’t be giving any advice because I’m not known for my dating skills and smart decisions…but I still put my two cents in when asked.

One of of my good friends had been telling me about this guy that was consistently trying to take her out. She texted me a photo of him and said, “This guy keeps offering to fly me somewhere…he’s a pilot.” I took one look at the picture, decided he was a 8.5 easy, and told her she should go! But then she informed me she got the “player” vibe from him and she could see on his Facebook that he whisked a lot of girls away on these trips and she didn’t want to be just another travel companion. Okay, I couldn’t blame her. Makes sense. But the way I looked at it was: “You’re single, dating, might as well date a guy who can take you to Hawaii for free. And if he does end up a player and breaks your heart, hey, at least you got to go on amazing vacays. You’ll probably end up getting your heart broken anyway, might as well be from a guy you can gain some frequent flyer miles from.” Am I right, or am I right? Well…she thought I was right and told him she’d be interested to go on a trip with him.

Within 5 minutes of telling her my advice and her agreeing to give him a chance I hear my g-chat new message ding:

Friend: Um, he just asked me to send him a bikini picture.
Me: Noooo he did not. Oh eff. Game over. He’s a loser. Goodbye.
Friend: I know right? Ugg. How annoying. And I was really going to give him a chance.
Me: I just spent a good 10 minutes rooting for this guy and convincing you to give him a shot and he had to go and ruin it with the bikini question.

Guys, as soon as you start asking for pictures from a girl, girls immediately put you in the “creeper” category or the “he’s a perv and nowhere near ready to be taken seriously” category. Both categories will not get you a date or laid or whatever it is you are trying to gain from the girl.

The conversation between them just got worse from that point. He proceeded to tell her he invented “honeymoon blind dating” which is what he called asking random girls to go away with him somewhere tropical, and then informed her he has standards and the last girl he took somewhere “was getting her PHD in psychology.”

Riiiiiiight. Fair enough to say, he blew it and she won’t be going on a honeymoon blind date anytime soon. Some men just never fail to surprise us.

Single Girl Story #8

Why do guys have some sort of radar on them that let’s them know when you have finally gotten over them? It’s like “Oh! She’s over me?!?! I miss her! I’m going to call her and tell her how much I miss her and want her back!”

How about no? How about you want me back a year ago when I wanted you?! Why did you torture me…hurt me…force me to move on from you…and then decide later that you want me? So unfair. Luckily in this situation I have truly 100% moved on from this guy and I wont get sucked back into liking him again.

My heart is safe. 

Men Are Like Cabs

Miranda: “Men are like cabs. When they’re available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and they decide they’re ready to settle down, have babies, whatever. And they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up, boom, that’s the one they’ll marry. It’s not faith, it’s dumb luck.”

One of my favorite quotes from Sex and the City. I really agree with what Miranda says here. 90% of the time a relationship moves forward to love and marriage is when the man is ready. Women are always ready. It’s the men we have to wait on to finally decide “Ok, I’m ready to settle down now and make this real.” Why do you think men are the ones that buy the ring and get down on one knee and propose?

 I’ve known girls who have dated guys for YEARS and for whatever reasons, they break up. Within a few months, that guy has moved onto a new girlfriend and proposes to her within 6 months of the relationship. He finally decided to turn his light on. It was the girl before that was just unlucky to meet him and have a relationship with him when his light was off. 

So I’ll just continue to live my single life in the same sense of how I hail cabs. Throw my arm up in the air and hope the man I jump into has his light on.