11 Aug 2014 Leave a comment

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I’m talking to a new boy!!! And it’s that fun beginning stage where you’re so giddy and hopeful. 
He lives in Las Vegas…and I live in LA. I mean of COURSE. Heaven forbid I ever find a guy to date that lives in same city as me. :-/

I went to visit him this last weekend in Vegas. It was a very last minute, spontaneous trip. And as I was driving there Friday night I felt a little crazy… like omg…am I really driving by myself 4 hours right now to Las Vegas to see a boy I’ve only been talking to for like… 3 weeks?!? But then I also thought to myself… this is the kind of shit you do in your life that you look back on and never really regret. I mean dont get me wrong..it could have gone horribly wrong but luckily it didnt. I will always be able to look back and say “remember that time I took a spontaneous trip to Vegas to hang out with this boy I liked? Oh the fun single days…” haha! 

The weekend was absolutely perfect. We got along so well. He was fun and so sweet. I got to go out and party and meet some of his friends and all of them were SO nice. There were a few cute moments we shared over the weekend but my fav was when out of the blue Saturday night he just said to me “I just want you to know I like you a lot.” I dont think I’ve had a boy say those actual words to me in…years… 

It’s funny because of course as I’m enjoying my weekend with new guy, I hear from Ryan asking to hang out. I just totally ignored him this time. No reply.

But ya! I’m excited to see if this goes anywhere. I’m hopeful (I should seriously tattoo the word hopeful to my body) it will turn into something more… but if not…it’s just really nice in the moment.

Umm…

11 Jul 2014 Leave a comment

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Exactly one month later (to the date!) Apartment/Guy I Met At The Gym texted that he has a “genuine interest in having a friendship” with me. 

I seriously have no idea how I want to play this. We can’t really be friends. I don’t want to JUST be friends with him. Like do we watch the latest episode of Girls together and then we tell each other all about the latest Tinder dates we’ve been on??

Like… I just can’t.

But obviously there’s a part of me that wants to try the “friend” thing out in hopes that a) he realizes how awesome I am and falls for me and we start dating again b) he realizes how awesome I am and falls for me and I realize how lame he is and kick him to the curb leaving him feeling heart broken 

But there’s that fear that it’s going to end with c) we’re friends and he finds a girl he wants to start dating seriously, kicks me to the curb and I’m standing there like ‘fall for this shit twice shame on me’!

Gah!! 

One Month Later Post…

18 Jun 2014 Leave a comment

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5/19/14
 
I am 100% smitten. Today it’s been exactly 2 weeks since our first date. I can’t even believe I’m typing 2 weeks. It seriously feels like 2 months. How has it only been 2 weeks??? Good lord…
Anyway… it’s been 2 weeks since our first date and I have not felt this happy with someone in years. And this isn’t some “oh I like him because we make-out when we’re drunk on more than one occasion” bullshit. This is the real stuff. 
I’m spending Saturday afternoons laying at the pool with this guy. I’m going on Sunday hikes with this guy. I’m watching 5 hours of HBO Go with this guy…. it’s REAL. 
And though I can’t stop smiling and I’m completely smitten… I can’t help but worry just a little bit that this could all be over tomorrow. The ‘getting to know you and dating process’ can be pretty nerve wracking. Because when you know you’re fully into it, you always worry that the other person may not be. 
I was expressing my worries to my mom and she told me, “Just be yourself. If he doesnt like you for who you are… then it’s not meant to be.” And it’s SO obvious and SO true and we hear it a million times…but it’s seriously advice I need to be reminded of every day to help me feel better and not worry so much. If this guy decides he’s not into me then fine. I’ll find someone else one day who is. 

03 Jun 2014 Leave a comment

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So the boy wants to “take things slow”

This is after 2 weeks of hanging out almost every day. Him bringing me flowers on our first date and saying things to me like “So I read this article in a magazine that said couples should tell each other every day two accomplishments they had in a day and one realization.” As I sat there thinking “Ummm, we are doing things that a magazine suggested couples do?? Okayyyyy…”

But no…NOW he wants to take things slow. I’ve gotten advice and opinions from like a million different people. And at this point it could go so many ways. He’s either completely over me and just letting me down gently by not texting me ever and not making plans to hang out ever and telling me he wants to take things slow. Or he’s a typical guy who got freaked out when things got serious too fast so now he’s backing off and figuring out his feelings. Or he’s dating some other girl at the same time and thinks he cant commit to me because he’s also dating her so he needs time to date both of us. Grrrrr….
Meanwhile I’m left sitting here feeling SO confused because his actions did a complete 180 from how it all started.

I may never know what the real reason is. But I’m just giving him space and will continue distracting myself and doing my own thing… and just see what happens. If it’s over… fine. I’ll move on AGAIN. But if he just needs time then I can do that too.

One Month Later

29 May 2014 Leave a comment

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I’m writing this blog now but scheduling it to post a month from the day it happened. The story is too good and too important…I have to write about it…but I also don’t want to put it out there for every one to see because… it might jinx it… and who knows what could happen in a month. But here goes…

April 29, 2014 I was at the gym at my apartment complex and secretly noticed as I was walking in that the hot guy was also working out. This is a hot guy I had been eyeing for MONTHS at the gym. And although I tried to smile at him any time I could or say hello… he was still very cold and just did not seem into me at all. I assumed he had a girlfriend or just wasn’t interested.

Well on this day I walked in and right away hot guy at the gym goes “I saw you driving the other day! I was right next to you in traffic!” The first sentence that started it all. We continued talking for about 10 minutes. Just about where we work, where we’re from, and rent prices in our area. He had just moved to my apartment complex 6 months ago…

Finally he was like “okay well, enjoy your workout.” and onto the treadmill I went. 30 minutes into my workout he starts to leave and he comes up to me and says, (I kid you not) “Sorry to interrupt your workout, but I’m wondering if I just met a beautiful attractive intelligent girl who is also single??”

My insides burst. LOL I couldn’t believe the HOT GUY FROM THE GYM was saying this to me. I smiled and laughed and told him I was single and he asked to exchange numbers. As he was leaving he told me to text him so once he was gone I wrote him “Hi it’s Tess. We met by the treadmill.” to which he replied “Do you know how many months I’ve wanted to talk to you??”

I mean……

Pause for reaction….

This is a guy I had told all my friends about jokingly. Every time I went to the gym and he was there I would immediately text my besties and be like “Hot guy was at the gym again. We didn’t talk.” So let’s just say it was pretty mind boggling that this whole time he was also into me…

And the rest is history….for now…

We’ve been  hanging out non stop for the past week… I’m completely smitten and I’m just excited yet really nervous to see if this goes anywhere…

 **updated: For my followers… a month later yes we are still hanging out as of now 🙂

17 Apr 2014 Leave a comment

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I’m going on a first date tomorrow with a guy who just texted me: “hooray! I’m really looking forward to it!”
How cute is that?? Fingers crossed for a good date!
#sonervous
#whatdoiwear

It All Felt Very Dramatic…

28 Feb 2014 Leave a comment

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Last night I was driving home from a friend’s house late and it was pouring rain outside. I was also blasting an old TSwift song in my car and IN THAT MOMENT this guy sent me a text message.

It felt like a moment from a movie.

Yes… the same douche who has a girlfriend he declares his love for on facebook, but yet still hits me up to hang out. Don’t worry….of course I didnt hang out with him. And then he sent me a text this morning saying “sorry about last night. I’m an idiot. Have a good day.”

#awkward 

Annoying Guys From Online Dating:

08 Jan 2014 Leave a comment

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Guy #1: Randomly out of the blue he texted me around 7pm Saturday night and said “I got a dvd screener of ‘American Hustle’ I am going to watch on my movie screen. 🙂 What are you doing tonight?”
Me: “That sounds so fun. But I can’t tonight. :-/” 
Guy #1: “No, that’s not what I meant. I was just telling you what I’m doing and asking you what you were up to.”

Oh really?? Really? You just like to randomly text me in the middle of the day and tell me what your plans are when I didnt even ask?! And I’m not supposed to assume that that’s an invite?
Aint nobody got time for that, weirdo.

Guy#2: “So when are you available so we can go on a date?”
Me: “Next week sometime. Weds maybe?”
Guy #2: “Maybe? I don’t do maybes.  If the best you got is maybe, I’ll pass.”
Me: “Okay dramatic. I didnt mean it like that. I meant it as a question. Like Wednesday works for me, would it work for you too?”
Guy #2: “Okay Wednesday works! See you then! 🙂 “

Ummmmmm no…you will not be seeing me then.

The Ex-Files

23 Nov 2013 Leave a comment

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It only took 5+ years but I finally ran into my ex boyfriend out here in LA. My ex and I are from the same home town but both of us moved out to LA years ago to “follow our dream.”

I knew he was out here but neither of us ever tried to see one another. And we had never run into each other ever. Which isn’t surprising since it’s LA and it’s very easy to stay anonymous. 

But tonight as I sat at the bar with my roomie I glanced over at the front door and noticed my ex walking in with his current girlfriend. I immediately slouched down and hid behind my roommate and whispered to her “Oh my god. Kevin is here!”

She slyly glanced over and noticed him too. He didnt notice us and he continued to walk into the bar and luckily walked to the complete opposite side. The bar was crowded and we didnt see each other for the rest of the night. And I left shortly after because I wasn’t looking to make it a long night.

I contimplated going over to him to say hello. Or even to casually walk by and wait for him to notice me. It would have been nice to chat with him, both of us standing there in the moment, seeing each other in LA for the first time.

But how would it have gone? “Oh my gosh hi. How are you? Here’s my girlfriend.” “Oh hello new girlfriend. I’m the ex girlfriend. Nice to meet you. No…I’m not here with a guy. Just little ole me.”

haha That possibility and that awkwardness trumped the idea of me going over to say hi. So I left, not ever knowing if he saw me. And it’s fine. It’s literally been 10 years since we broke up. It was just pretty crazy to run into him after all this time.

05 Nov 2013 Leave a comment

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Really interesting article and research about “the science of flirting.”

“He asked two complete strangers to reveal to each other intimate details about their lives. This carried on for an hour and a half. The two strangers were then made to stare into each others eyes without talking for four minutes. Afterwards many of his couples confessed to feeling deeply attracted to their opposite number and two of his subjects even married afterwards.”

Say whaaaaa? That’s amazing! I wish someone would just throw me in a room and make a guy stare at me for four minutes, and he would fall in love and we would get married. Done and done! haha

After reading this article I’ve decided when I go on dates I need to remind myself to speak more slowly, make eye contact and just be more sensual I guess. I tend to speak fast and be really happy and excited when I’m on a first date because I want to come off as charming and fun but I’m wondering if guys don’t like that as much?

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